We have doubts about ourselves - that we aren't smart enough, strong enough, or good enough to do what we genuinely want to do which is to achieve a higher purpose in life or to succeed in life. I personally want to make a difference in this world. Those who know me well, know that I am a strong advocate for the mental health and wellbeing of frontline workers. I have read an endless amount of self-help books on topics such as this one and self-efficacy, purpose anxiety, mental health, bravery, taming your inner gremlins, and many many more.

What do you say when someone asks you, "How are you?"

Do you pause to assess your own condition before responding

Or do you default to one of the well-known "excellent, OK, OK" phrases?

Fear of failure is the number one killer of large goals and good ideas, killing them faster than a lack of knowledge or experience or a lack of a clear strategy or action plan. Individuals' biggest impediment to success is paralysis created by the dread of failing. Most of us are taught from a young age that failing is bad, even disgraceful. We learn to conceal our failings, to find explanations for them, or to disregard them. Worse, we begin to avoid taking chances.

However, during the Co-Active training, I had my own “A-HA” moment! I realized that I could actually be a Wellness Life Coach and help individuals like myself. I fell in love with it right away. I was able to bring my professional skills to the table and felt confident that I could truly assist those in need.

Who would be better to teach about mental health awareness to nurses? Me or a conventional expert? I am a survivor and an insider regarding my topic, my passion, and my calling. Survivors or insiders have lived the experience the expert's study. Survivors have insights that the experts don't. They bring forward neglected perspectives and a reality check on the experts' take.